Our friends of Zoo membership is coming to an expiry soon. We have not been going for a while due to the loads of activities & the recent rainy season. On Vesak Day, we set out to go Zoo early in the morning. Luckily we did cos it rained heavily in the noon. The children playground was fully pack!!!

I'm thankful that Sky has a wonderful teacher (Centre Mgr). On two occassions, she inserted a handwritten notes to me informing me Sky's progress in school. She goes to details such as his crying periods & his participation level during activities throughout the 2hrly session. As they are on "Food" theme, they also provided slips showing the type of food the children tasted & the likeness level to the food. It's a nice gesture & i certainly do appreciate such form of interaction.




Sky's going back for holiday programme - "Little Chef". Hope he has no problem adapting back to school life after a one-week term break.

Went to Buckaroo to celebrate Sky's birthday, Mother's day, MIL's birthday cum dad's birthday. Wat an event!


All of them shared this cake.


Sky having fun with cousins


Busy eating

Gotten a barney jelly cake for his school celebration.


The children can't keep their hands off the cake while we trying to light the candle.


Cake eating time.

Still remember the day when I found out that I was preggie with Sky. God told me then it would be a boy. Sky was considered a high need baby. I had to wake up few times in the night to nurse him & he constantly need physical touch from us. God really use him mightly to test my patience.

I hv previously blogged abt how sensitive Shan can be. I'm not sure if she's ultra emotional kind. She can get into tears easily & she seems to need constant reassurance that we love her very much. If I praise her bro, she will ask "mummy, me leh?" If I had somehow ignore her, die big time! She will get into her act & sob! During the times when she's given scolding or time out, she will start saying things like, "mummy don't luv me!", "nobody luv me!" & even to the extend of "I dun like my family!" I hope it's not some kind of insecure-ness she's feeling. When she's not into her notti acts, she will then be an affectionate & a very lovely gal.

Suddenly recalled that I watch a no. of k-dramas while preggie with her..Me, being the emotional kind will watch those touching serial with tears. Don't tell me this emotional streak is being passed to her unknowingly & it's passed over 3x!

Saw this in another blog & it's really funny.

Parenting Styles

Old way:
"put on your shoes!"... "i said put on your shoes!"... why are they not on yet?"...etc

New way:
"what shoes are you wearing today? your trainers or your sandals?"

Old way:
"hurry up and eat your food!"

New way:
"what bowl/spoon do you want to use today? the white one or the blue one?"... "would you like to finish dinner quickly and go to the playground, or finish slowly and go straight to the bath?"

Old way:
"go to bed. it's time for bed. it's late"

New way:
"it's bedtime. are you going to hop there like a kangaroo, or slither like a snake?" ...and..."which story do you want...the dog one or the cat one?"..."who is switching off the light?...you or me?"

When they get very 'otherwise' despite well-phrased attempts, then, instead of yelling, offer options in a calm manner but with a difference that now one of those options may no longer be in the child's favour. This encourages him to think carefully about the repercussions of his choices, i.e. to think wisely.

When child is throwing himself on the floor not wanting to co-operate, don’t simply carry the child away. Ask him, “would you like to hold mommy's hand nicely and walk to the bathroom, or would like mommy to carry u instead?" After the child decides, respond again in a calm manner, "ok, stand up nicely now then I will carry you" or "ok, hold my hand now and let's walk there quietly."

When they still do not oblige after a few promptings, then give them a time-out equivalent in minutes to the child's. Only do this in a safe place, and for kids 2.5/3yrs and up, and save it as a last resort.
Again, don’t simply carry the child away. Offer him options. If you have exhausted all others then the time-out option can be offered as an alternative to whatever you would like him to do. Remember, anything used in excess will become ineffective.

Old way:
"#*$(*@ blah blah blah! "

New way:
"would you like to go to the bathroom nicely, or would you like to go for a 2 minute time-out instead?"

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The parenting style now is so different from the old times. Even my mum admitted that there are new ways of teaching children which she need to learn & apply on my 2 naughty baobeis.

Take for today, through the teacher, my mum learnt that she has to say a proper goodbye to Sky when she's leaving instead of doing a quiet stunt. Thank God that Sky has no problem adapting to the school & happily say "bye" to Ah-ma. The headache now is however on the school van. Sky don't seem to like to school van Uncle & cried the minute he's put up to the van. Hope tmr will be better.